1) A boy telling you you’re pretty won’t make you see the beauty in the fullness of your cheeks, in redness of your lips at 2 in the morning when tequila is making the bar bathroom spin. He can’t take away the ugliness that you see in yourself, you have to do that.
2) You have to be ready to hear someone say they love you. You have to be ready, and you have to be willing, and you have to listen. Because sometimes, they won’t say those three words, they’ll put a blanket over you while you’re watching a movie, they’ll kiss your cheek when they think you’re asleep, they’ll smile when they see you first thing in the morning. But you, you have to be willing to see it, feel it, let it in. Letting someone love you takes practice.
3) Don’t make compromises you can’t live with. Compromise is a different version of what you want, not a whole other Universe.
4) Learn to say no. No - to a movie you don’t want to watch; no - to sex you don’t want to have, no- to a relationship that’s driving you mad. Say no - to things that hurt you, to people that extinguish your fire, to jobs you hate and places that are desolate. There are bad things that we can’t control, bad things that happen and we are sucked into and have to feel with every fibre of our being, but the rest - learn to distance yourself, learn to say no.
5) Don’t expect people to walk through fire for you - not your parents, not your friends, not the person you’re in love with. Love doesn’t mean sacrifice, love shouldn’t mean sacrifice. Don’t expect someone to give away pieces of them, so they could fit you better. And don’t feel hurt when they refuse to - it’s self-preservation. Instead - learn from them. Do it as well.
6) Don’t tether yourself to people. Learn to make connections, to love, with both your feet steady on the ground. Learn to let people pass through your life; like a summer breeze, not a storm that’s just been unleashed.
7) Learn the difference between growth and growing up before it’s too late. Rooftops and water fights and ice cream for breakfast can be a part of your life at 10, 25, or 35. But by the time you’re 35 you need to learn to say enough, to be able to walk away, you need to be able to love yourself. Love yourself the way you loved yourself at 10, before the world had a chance to fill your head with ugliness.
“You can only fit so many words in a postcard. Only so many in a phone call. Only so many into space, before you forget that words are sometimes used for things other than filling emptiness. It is hard to build a body out of words. I have tried. We have both tried.”— Sarah Kay, “Long Distance Love” (via psych-facts)
“If I could choose one thing in life that I like to do for myself, that would be traveling everywhere with no restrictions to how long I could stay at a particular place, what I could do, what I could buy, who I get to be and get to take me with. That would be fantastic.”—(via psych-facts)
“Three simple rules in life. 1. If you do not go after what you want, you’ll never have it. 2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 3. If you do not step forward, you will always be in the same place.”—(via wild-spirit)
i. I told myself I was weak because I couldn’t hold up dumbbells for too long and this guy at work said I would never be strong enough since I started with only five pounds instead of anything heavier.
ii. My father told me I was weak because I didn’t eat enough protein to build muscles and mother said I was weak because I didn’t know how to think for myself or be a lady. But God, I am strong. I am so damn strong and they do not even know nor do they understand the weight I carry around every single day.
iii. The weight of heavy thoughts I can’t seem to get out of my mind like where do I stand in this life, who am I meant to be? I worry about the grades and the job I choose won’t be a career. Adults think that children and teenagers have it so easy but they do not remember what it’s like to go through your life and not knowing who to be and what to do in the next few years. They don’t understand how sometimes blades are people’s best friends and how much media dictates our every move.
iv. So I am here to tell you this, I am not some weak female who cannot lift tools at the gym. I am stronger than you will ever know because there were so many incidents when the voices in my head tried to convince me to give up, to let go, to sleep and never wake up but every single morning when my alarm rings I force myself out of bed.
v. And I smile. I smile even when there’s a s snow storm outside and school is still going. I am still going. Don’t you dare point your fingers at me and tell me I am too weak for my own good.
vi. I am too fucking strong and if you cannot see that, then you are the weak one.
”—"They call me easy and weak too often." // M.D.L (via mingdliu)
“I will never let myself fall in love with someone again in that way. I have to believe it because I want to fall in love with someone who loves me back. And I’m going to do anything in my life to convince myself that is possible.”—Sam Smith on his past experiences with unrequited love. (via thevvildyouth)
I’m sorry, but if lesbians can control themselves in a girls only changing room with ass naked woman waltzing around. Then I figure men should be able to control them selves with clothed girls walking down the street. Just a thought.